Wednesday, December 7, 2011
Will Goal Weight Make You Happy?
When I reached goal weight in 2008, I found myself facing those questions. My body was different, but I was still the same person. Losing weight didn't make me lose my shyness. Getting thin didn't get me confidence. I was still me. So now what?
One of the things I learned as I entered weight-maintenance, is that setting goals is about more than a number on the scale, or a size on a label. It's about where you are, where you're headed, and what you ultimately want. A terrific read on setting goals is on Tabitha's blog here.
Along with goals, you've also got to dig down into the deeper parts of yourself and find your issues. Dealing with the issues will help you not only reach the goals you set, but reach new heights of living. After reaching goal weight, I embarked on a journey to find out exactly what I wanted in life. I took some funky twists and turns, including a memorable moment on a stage with a feather boa, but I learned a lot - about life - about myself. I learned how to assess the things I was unhappy about by asking two questions...
Can I change the situation? Yes? Then change it. No? then Can I change my perspective of the situation?
I've changed. A lot. I've grown. I'm still growing. I've reached goals. I'm still setting goals. And I'm learning to live life to the fullest and love it. My weight, my shape, is part of it - because I've worked so hard to earn it - but it's not the whole. The things that make me whole have nothing to do with the scale or a label.
If you're working toward a goal weight or size, I challenge you to go deeper. What got you to where you are now? What do you need to work on? Please believe me when I tell you, if you don't deal with it now, it WILL hurt you later. If you're an emotional eater, or a binger, reaching goal weight won't make that magically go away, it'll just make weight maintenance a trial and a misery. Goal weight doesn't change you, but you have the POWER to change your behaviors. You can grow, you can let out more of who you really are, you can be deep-down-in-the-gut-happy. It's going to take some work, no lie, but it's worth it. You can do it!
Oh, and you can hit goal-weight, too! ;-)